My work is devoted to cultivating healthy, enduring relationships. In my 25 years as a marriage and family therapist, I have learned that lasting change does not happen solely at the conceptual level. Insight may open the door, but true transformation requires the development of heart intelligence.
When we allow the heart to lead—rather than relying exclusively on the conceptual mind—we begin to inhabit ourselves in an entirely new way. We listen, both inwardly and outwardly, from a deeper and more authentic place. From there, we create not from the past, but from a living process of becoming.
When meeting with a couple for the first time, I often ask them to describe what they hope will happen in therapy. What we witness and experience as children frequently becomes the template for how we communicate as adults. Patterns of blame, criticism, defensiveness, or shutdown can quietly shape how partners relate to one another.
I invite couples to stay open and curious, noticing when the impulse to defend or withdraw arises. Rather than reacting from these familiar parts, couples learn to slow down and speak from their own needs and lived experience. Over time, they begin to understand that the work is not about being right—an orientation that often closes communication and leads to disconnection—but about staying present and connected.
As couples become less reactive, they discover more choice in how they respond to one another. This expanded sense of choice opens the door to greater intimacy, understanding, and mutual respect.
As we attune more fully to ourselves and to one another, a resonance emerges—a continual flow that allows for a freer, more embodied sense of who we truly are.
I work individually with clients and also collaborate with Robert Sardello, inviting people into journeys of self-discovery through heart-awakening experiences.
